A powerful message that I believe is true. Remember the old idea that a dog can smell fear? I think that a clear headed, alert human can sense ill will in another. Hat tip to @changeseeker
Image via Wikipedia I caught this article at Psychcentral.com, [ Image via Wikipedia I caught this article at Psychcentral.com, ] . It struck me as a counter-intuitive finding for a research study. I’ve been helping clients build self-esteem for over 30 years and while positive thoughts is not a short road to better self-esteem, it certainly does work over the long run. I’d estimate that at least six months is required to make significant progress with self-esteem from solely refocusing on the positive, and some people require much more time.
Great little exercise on Mindfulness from PsychCentral.com By Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. June 24, 2009 ….Great little exercise on Mindfulness from PsychCentral.com By Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. June 24, 2009 …. is a process I created and did a national research study around to help us cultivate more of these meaningful moments. Related articles by Zemanta Mindfulness and Psychotherapy: An Interview with Dr. Elisha Goldstein (psychcentral.com)
Image via WikipediaOverwork in America has become even worse since the latest recession. People are afraid to slow down to take care of themselves because the fear of lay offs. Overwork has led to an epidemic of depression. Even Congress has taken notice. A bill requiring employers to provide paid vacation has been introduced. Below is a great article from a while ago that I think captures well the phenomena.
Image via Wikipedia With all the bad news floating around, lets hear what science says about happiness. While there is no magic here, statistics show a trend towards this sort of behavior when a person reports they are happy. Which came first? Happiness or happy behavior? In my experience, happiness is a state of mind relatively unrelated to events. A person who values his life based more on who he is, appreciates what he has, who takes concrete steps towards his goals, and makes a conscious effort to see his glass half full, rather than half empty more often reports being happy.
This story is truly astonishing. Jill Bolte Taylor is a Neuroanatomist who had an remarkable experience of self-discovery. In this experience, she found Nirvana, that place of total peacefulness we all seek. At the same time, she discovered it’s neuroanatomy. She effectively defined mindfulness. TED | Talks “Jill Bolte Taylor got a research opportunity few brain scientists would wish for. One morning, a blood vessel in Jill Bolte Taylor’s brain exploded.
Mindfulness is a very simple concept, but a skill that escapes a lot of people. Simply put, when we are mindful we act as an observer of our minds, our thoughts and feelings, without judging, or holding onto anything. The object is to be completely present in the moment, mostly focused on our senses, our eyes, ears, nose, and skin. Having complete faith in ourselves, we simply accept whatever comes, assuming we have all we need to cope with anything as best we can.
This article lists occupations associated with depression. While I don’t think that articles spin that these occupations contribute to depression. Rather I think people who are prone to depression also seek out more meaningful work. PsycPORT.com “People who tend to the elderly, change diapers and serve up food and drinks have the highest rates of depression among U.S. workers. Overall, 7 percent of full-time workers battled depression in the past year, according to a government report available Saturday.
Feeling overwhelmed with the daily rat race? Is career, gathering material goods, consuming more time than you want, taking time from your personal time, your family time, your life? Have you noticed that every time you reach a material or career goal, you find little sense of achievement, just an emptiness that can only be replaced with a new goal? Then perhaps you need to rethink your values. More and more people are redefining the “American Dream”.
MindBlog quotes from pp 348-352 of Wayward Mind by Guy Claxton: What we call our ‘self’ is an agglomeration of both conscious and unconscious ingredients: cans, needs, dos, oughts, thinks….these constructions hold out an overwhelming temptation: to assume that the “I” is the same in all of them… so that instead of having an intricate web of things that make me Me, I have to create a single imaginary hub around which they all revolve, to which they all refer…the attempt to keep this fiction going, to ‘hold it together’ can become quite tiring and bothersome… If “I” am essentially reasonable, if I imagine that my zones of control – over my own feelings for example – are wider and more robust than they are, then I am going to get in a tangle trying to ‘control myself.