Why Do Men Have Such Trouble With Intimacy? (Full article at the link in alternet.org) Real intimacy, unlike sex or hanging out, requires a vulnerability the ‘man code’ Cropped screenshot of John Wayne and Angie Dickinson from the trailer for the film Rio Bravo (Photo credit: Wikipedia) prohibits…. The answer is that most men are taught from an early age to be competitive, that feelings are a sign of weakness, and to avoid vulnerability and dependency at all costs.
Image by angela7dreams via FlickrI tripped over an article at Psych Central News describing some recent research on sexist humor. “…those who had listened to sexist jokes were much more tolerant with male battering than those who had not.” The results ring true. I have found domestic violence, even street violence is justified in the mind of the offender by disrespect. People in general tend to diminish in importance even dehumanize a party they wish to assault.
Here is another angle on concern about today’s adolescents and young adults. It appears that the malaise affecting African American adolescents and young men stretches across racial boundaries at least somewhat. More young adult males live at home stalling the transition to adulthood. There certainly has always been some cultural spill over from African Americans to Caucasions. Part of the attraction of the “[cool-pose culture]” has been the admiration it creates even among whites.
MedlinePlus Nearly two thirds of U.S. college students are affected by sexual harassment — ranging from offensive jokes and gestures to touching and grabbing, according to a study released on Tuesday. Men are more likely to harass than women, but women and men are equally likely to be harassed on U.S. campuses, according to a report by the American Association of University Women. Researchers found that 62 percent of college students experienced sexual harassment, and 32 percent of college students said they were victims of physical harassment.